What is EMDR?
When painful memories get “stuck,” they can keep affecting how you feel, think, and behave. EMDR is a gentle, proven therapy that uses left-right eye movements or taps to help your brain process difficult memories and emotions so they no longer have the same power. This creates space for healthier choices, relationships, and self-beliefs.

How EMDR Helps

Heals the impact of past abuse, neglect, or broken boundaries by taking the emotional “sting” out of difficult memories

Releases painful beliefs like “I’m broken” or “I’m unlovable”

Reduces the pull of behaviours that feel compulsive or hard to control

Supports natural healing so you can move forward with a stronger sense of self

CBT - (not that CBT) is a practical, evidence-based approach that helps you understand the thoughts, emotions, and patterns driving unhelpful or distressing sexual behaviour. Whether you're struggling with compulsive urges, risky behaviours, kink-related distress, or actions that feel out of alignment with your values, CBT can help you regain control and clarity.

CBT works by:

Identifying triggers and underlying beliefs

Challenging shame-based or distorted thinking

Developing healthier coping strategies

Aligning behaviours with your personal values and goals so that you can explore sex in a way that feels right for you

If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed, CBT can help you understand the “why” behind your actions and build the tools to move forward with intention, self-awareness, and greater freedom.

How CFT can help with difficult sexual feelings

Sometimes sexual interests or kinks can feel overwhelming, confusing, or at odds with our values and relationships. This can lead to shame, secrecy, or distress.

CFT can help you:

Reduce shame by building self-compassion instead of harsh self-criticism.

Understand your urges as natural responses shaped by life experiences, not as personal failings.

Create choice by learning to pause and act in line with your values, rather than feeling driven by urges.

Strengthen relationships through more open, compassionate communication.

The goal isn’t to judge or “eliminate” desires, but to help you relate to them in a healthier, kinder way—so they cause less distress and give you more freedom to live the life you want.

ACT isn’t about judging or “erasing” your sexuality. Instead, it helps you build a healthier relationship with your thoughts, feelings, and desires so you can live in line with what truly matters to you.

Through ACT, you can learn to:

Clarify your values – get clear on what kind of relationships and intimacy you want.

Notice urges and thoughts without judgment – so they have less power over you.

Make space for difficult emotions – like shame or guilt, without letting them control you.

Take value-guided action – choosing behaviours that support safety, connection, and wellbeing.

ACT offers practical tools to reduce secrecy, ease self-criticism, and help you move toward a more fulfilling and authentic life.